Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime

Die Perspektive von Julie Menanno ist unglaublich aufschlussreich und hat mir geholfen, eine viel tiefere und gesündere Sicht auf eine gesunde Beziehung zu entwickeln. Ich empfehle dieses Buch jedem, der sich mit dem Thema Beziehungen auseinandersetzt.

Ich habe dieses Buch als Geschenk für meine Schwester ausgewählt. Das Buch hat eine angenehme Anmutung und die Gestaltung ist einladend. Sie hat es mir sehr geschätzt, als sie es durchblätterte.

It is honestly a very insightful book where your perspective can shift completely on how to address conflict. It also brings into perspective what a purpose could be! Recommended book!

Dear Julie,THANK YOU for writing this book.I feel so heard, understood, validated, not alone, supported, and confident after reading this book.I was dating my best friend in the whole world. Over time, unfortunately my anxious attachment kept being triggered by my avoidant partner’s behavior sometimes. When I wanted to express my needs in those moments (or finally, when it bubbled up), I tried to, but could not do it EFFECTIVELY. Over time, I got more and more anxious, and he became more and more avoidant, because we weren’t communicating to each other effectively during those ruptures or moments of need. It led to a break up as both sides felt unheard, invalidated, and hopeless.Many days after the breakup I sat and processed what I contributed to the demise of the relationship (not only—I can recognize my good efforts and character too, of course!), and what things that my ex-partner contributed. About two weeks later, this book came out. I ordered it immediately, as I realized what almost all of our behaviors came down to: insecure attachment (and ineffective communication).I read it almost in one day. Then, I read it a second time. I took notes throughout the book, writing in the margins.I ended up sending a copy to my ex-partner (who was open to learning about it, we are on respectful terms), who read it too. He also felt similar to me and took notes in the book.What a HUGE mirror to my behavior (and theirs), and how perfectly worded is each chapter.What a beautiful blueprint to how my brain (and others’) has been operating for so long. And what a beautiful toolbox to be able to make changes over time to how I continue to each interaction and the overall dynamic.I have felt so confident to change positively and notice huge changes already. I also am interacting more positively with this ex-partner. Maybe the small interactions build up over time to create a new and improved healthy foundation.Thank. You. I can love myself more and operate more healthily each day now. And I can forgive myself for my previous behavior.