Schafler, Katherine: The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control

Dieses Buch bietet sehr hilfreiche Strategien, um mit dem Perfektionismus umzugehen und die Kontrolle zu gewinnen, auch wenn es nicht perfekt ist. Es ist eine gute Grundlage für die Selbstreflexion.

Dieses Buch bietet sehr nützliche Strategien, um mit dem Perfektionismus umzugehen, obwohl ich ein paar mehr Tiefe in einigen Bereichen gewünscht hätte. Es ist eine gute Grundlage für alle, die unter Leistungsdruck stehen.

Perfekt!

I learnt about this book listening to MOM’S DON’T HAVE TIME TO READ BOOKS. Hence, I ordered the audiobook first. Meanwhile, I have ordered the printed book, too. In beautiful, clear, superbly crafted prose, Schafler redefines perfectionists as people who want to bridge the gap between reality and their ideals with more dedication and passion than non-perfectionists: „When those tendencies, the desire to bridge the gulf between an idea and reality, present themselves more often than not and are accompanied by actively striving towards bridging that gulf, you can consider yourself a perfectionist.“ Then she teaches all five types of perfectionists how to let go of control and opt for empowerment instead, telling vivid stories about people who managed exactly that.Extra bonus for listeners: Katherine Morgan Schafler is the Kiri Te Kanawa of readers. Her voice is mellifluous, perfectly pitched. Not only does it unlock a plethora of meanings in each sentence, it also floods your ears with the constant and consistent undertone of a deep love of all things human. It is an irresistible invitation to soften your heart, open it, and work and pray powerfully instead of desperately for your ideals, knowing and feeling that you yourself are entitled to love, joy, dignity, freedom, and connection as is everybody else. You need not EARN that entitlement. It is your birthright. You need not accomplish this. Therefore, you can be yourself and relax at the same time.Is there nothing even slightly imperfect about this book? Well, listening to it, reading it, and working with it would be of tremendous benefit to my son, the lawyer ;-), too. It will be tough for me to persuade him to give it a fair chance. He will give up as soon as he hears that the book is addressed to women, meaning to people who always consider themselves women or sometimes do. 99% of the content of this book is as relevant and helpful for male perfectionists as for female ones. So why exclude them and restrict their resources to JBP (more power to him, though!)?